Self appointed judges of our character. People who love to point out our short
comings, our failures, our inability to please.
An inability to please…..them.
Some of the most judgmental people I have ever seen have the
worst character flaws imaginable. And
instead of spending any time in introspective thinking….they lash out
delivering their judgement on others around them. Oddly enough, they are very adept at
delivering their judgements, hammering home their point and then………they
vaporize before you can react, defend or try to engage in civil discourse. You see, judgmental people are cowards. They cannot allow any dissenting voice to
penetrate their vile behavior. Because they know....they know their behavior is wrong but as long as they don't have to hear anyone say so....it never happened.
Judgmental people quite often have a heaping helping of
rampant narcissism to go along with their judgements. They are perfect, they are the smartest, they are the most highly evolved, they have all the answers to all the issues of life and they NEVER make mistakes. Well....not the mistakes YOU make.....and yours are THE WORST. Therefore, there is no defense for you. You are judged….found lacking….and sentenced
to whatever punishment they see fit.
Usually the judgement is to remove you from their privileged
and holy presence.
Hurt me.
I already have an unhealthy dose of self doubt, guilt, and
remorse at times, and quite frankly….your judgement of me is actually quite
weak in comparison to the nasty little platter of self loathing that I keep tucked
away in emotional Tupperware to be revisited at will.
Could I judge you?
Oh, my dear….yes, yes I could.
Should I judge you? That bitter
little bugger that sits on my left shoulder screams……”DO IT….YOU’LL FEEL BETTER!” And maybe I would….for a minute. But then……my better angels will admonish me
to rise, to keep silent….and to love…..even you. And most of all, they counsel for me to let
go of you and let God work his work in His time.
At this moment in time I am unchurched. I am unchurched in a traditional sense. I have become a person who has found that I
want to hear God speak to me without it coming from someone else’s thought
process or voice. I have turned my
thinking inward more definitively….I am constantly listening with my heart’s
ears. And, I hear. And I am often led to The Book by events of
the day. And so, recently, the
judgements of others on myself and other people have been playing heavily in
real time, here is….and hear what God says to me and to you about judging.
“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be
judged; and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in
thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out
of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of
thy brother’s eye.” Matthew 7: 1-5
It is stunning to me to see the number of every Sunday church attendees that miss this lesson completely. But, there I go judging. Sorry.
I love the KJV of the Word – but I will attempt here to make
this easier for some to understand. Don’t
judge anyone. Because when you do, you
are going to be judged yourself equally and more. Stop looking at and pointing out flaws in others
and ignoring your own big issues. You
can’t help anyone with their issues, problems or offenses until you deal with
your own first. Your knowledge of people is limited to what they have allowed you to know. You do not know their big story...your know chapter 2, 5 and 20. The things that happened in the other chapters are the things they have to manage daily....silently, and alone.
All I know is….I surely don’t want to be judged as harshly as I have judged some people. I’m trying to stop doing that….how about you?
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